Thursday, January 22, 2009

Crime rates uppp!!!!

It’s almost the end of the month and I still haven’t written anything as I have been too busy and too lazy to write anything…. I know that’s not good… Lately I have been feeling all depressed and all pissed off too. Anyway forget that and let me get into the topic I wanted to tell about rather than wandering off yet again :)

Ever since I started doing the Local pages for the news paper that I work with, I have also been handling a column which deals crime news etc and we call it ‘Law& Order’. Well from doing so many of that on a daily basis I do know that the crime rate has gone up (gone sky rocketing!!!) and people still are not the least bit bothered.

Well I cannot blame them too I guess because it’s come to a point where I too don’t care anymore. I just edit and rewrite the whole thing without even taking the whole article into any consideration since by the end of the day all I want to do is to hand it in so that I can finish the pages and it’s only another story for me and one which I just work on to make it more readable and stuff.

Ok now one of the many things that did strike me was that the rape, molestation, sexual abuses etc. against Filipino women are way too high and it’s not at all news anymore and people hardly think that it’s a crime.

I certainly do have the feeling that the Arab men think that it’s their right to have any Filipino woman (or any woman I guess), but in particular this particular nationality. So many cases of kidnapping and raping them or the cheating cases and all have come up regularly and the Filipino maids too are being abused at a very high rate.(OK I am not telling that all Arab men are like that...)

Now why is this happening? Why do men here feel that it’s their right to abuse women and think that they are enjoying this? What is the world and this community coming to? I have a colleague at work who did write a feature about the Arab men and their cheating issue and in most responses that she got and from what I read, it was understood that they think it’s their right and it’s alright to cheat on their wives.
Most women too do know that the husbands cheat or will cheat, but many are ok with it as they don’t want to create any problems and they feel it’s the way of life. What an attitude right???

Here’s an interesting incident which happened: I used to have a colleague at office who joined with us some time back and he is a young and ok looking guy I guess (and handsome to Arab females’ maybe). Anyway, during a conference he did bring his wife and we happened to meet her. Later when we came to know about the birth of his little kid we all held a small party at office and did give gifts and stuff too and he did bring the kid to office too.

After some time, some of us were transferred to a new company and I did'nt keep in touch much with anyone specially since he spoke Arabic only and communication was a big problem. Anyway the interesting issue is that around 3 months back we had a new girl join us at work and she is very young and smart and all that. Next thing I know is that this guy kept calling her from the other office and stuff and then kept asking her about going out and stuff and he even gave the (usual)sob story – “I was engaged earlier, but that relationship broke. Now I am a free man, I am also heartbroken… I am a very rich man...My family is very very rich...blah blah blah….”

Well can you believe that?? Well the idiot at least has to think that we all know that he is married and has kids na? So the next time he came to office one of my colleagues asked him about his wife and kids and this new girl heard about that but acted as though she didn’t hear anything. It’s a few days later when he called again to ask her out that she told me about all the stuff that’s been happening and how he keeps asking her out and stuff. I was shocked for sure...The idiot who brought his wife around and showed that he is in so much of love and stuff could behave this way???

I guess values and morality etc are not an issue with most people now and for some the excuse is that they are alone in another country, work tensions and all that bull shit...Well I guess even thinking about writing such things is making me get irritated...

I sure wonder what the younger generation is growing up to be. It sure is a sad state of affairs. Another menace that many people face here is the problems they face in the public transportation buses. Many young school boys’ harass the passengers a lot and they even go to the extent of physically touching and sexually harassing the female expatriate travelers who are unfortunate enough to be travelling at that time.

The worst part is that no one can respond or go to the rescue as they are Kuwaiti boys and most passengers are expatriates who don’t want to take any risks and get involved. There was also a case when a female started to fight back and asked for help etc and she got pushed out of the moving bus by the kids… (Ahh that is one of the reasons I have never even gone near a bus :( )

Hey can’t blame me ok… I sure don’t want to go through such things… Well now seeing all these I wonder how I will handle kids of my own and how I can make them grow up to be better human beings…

Anyway we cannot blame the financial crunch and crisis around the world for the behavioral problems of all humans’ right? Ya sure that the crisis has put a lot of lives at risk because of the layoffs from jobs and stuff… I know that many people have lost jobs and are wondering what to do, most of them have families who depend on them and most are ones who are at an age where finding new jobs will be too difficult for them.

I sincerely do hope that this situation will somehow clear up soon. It has to…And ya I do hope that the crime rate will go down and that parents will start looking into what their kids do, try and control them and so on in order to make them better citizens. (They have to do something about the kids here as even the 7th graders seem to find alcohol and drugs in this strict country and the number of drug addicts are going up too. All these kids them drive harshly which are leading to a heavy rise in accidents and so many innocent lives are getting lost…may families are getting destroyed because of all this…It sure is a vicious cycle…
We all have to work to make things better…

14 comments:

Renu said...

I am very shocked to read this article, life must be really difficult there for the expatriates.

Enigma said...

@Renu
Thanks for stopping by :)
Well cant say that life is tough for everyone... But i guess its tough for the less fortunate ones who have to put up with a lot of s**t...And i do feel sorry for them and I do know that i should count my blessings for being a fortunate person who doesnt have to go through any such problems... But believe me i hate most of the arttitude of the arab men who think that women are sexual objects...and I just hate the way the young kids here are growing up...Parents cannot be sooo irresponsible

Reflections said...

This post was quite an eyeopener....tho I cd relate to many of those instances....esp the plight of filipino girls. But I find in many cases the filipino girls themselves think it is a prestige thing to have a 'local' as their boyfriend.
Having money is not enoff...something called culture also matters.

At the same time what happens in ur buses dont happen here...mainly bcoz most arabs do not travel by buses. But yes u find labor class of Indians & pakistanis who do the same thing...tho they will not dare to touch. But nothing can stop them from undressing u with their eyes....again I have to admit the Indian women dont get harassed tht much...its the philipino & other european women who bear the brunt.

The blogger formerly known as Sansmerci said...

yea kel.. ur rite..everytime i c a guy misbehaving or actin like an MCP.. i only tell myself i ll make sure my son grows up knowing how to respect and love a fella human being... thts the small difference i can make to the society with my effort and probably if all of us do.. n the next generation will be morally perfect :) - dreams i have na?

Renu said...

U have sweet dreams Swarna:)

Enigma said...

@reflections
Ya true that many of us do not hav to go through all this...Well ya true wat u said about the filipino girls are also true...For the most part, they r the ones who i have seen and heard about having the most number of affairs and all that kinda things...
At times i do feel that its coz of them iotself that they go through all this...About expatritae women facing troubles, ya i hav heard a lot of reports about it and nothing much is being done too...
Something has to be done so that these women and men can travel safetly....comeon..most of them cant afford to hav cars and take taxis daily...

Enigma said...

@swar..
well its not a dream alone dear...its partly a dream, but its certainly something we can put an effort into..its our duty to c that our children grow up as good human beings... cant blame anyone lese for wat they grow up to be other than ourselves...

Enigma said...

@Renu
:) Well even though swar's wishes are aomewhat dream like...its certainly possible

Renu said...

yes, those dreams are possible and I have already amde them possible, my both the children are exactly like my dreams, but U know, I feel so indulgent to Swarna and her dreams:), sweet girl with sweeter thoughts:), sorry to bypass the rules of blogging(talking abt soemone else on your blog)

Enigma said...

@renu
thats so good to know... good to know that ur dream became a realityy...heheh well abt swar's dreams, ya the sweet girl truly with sweet thoughts... :)
and I certainly have nop problem at all about talking abt someone else...heheh me and swar kinda do it all the time... :)

The blogger formerly known as Sansmerci said...

wow i came here to chek if u ve replied to my comment.. looks like theres a lota good words about me here :D thanks renu :))))

kel... renu is always extra sweet bout me :P and yea i ve writen a post too.. sou both cud leave comments there bout me than here :P ;);) Jus kidding

Enigma said...

@swar
heheh ya ya we hav been commentin abt ya... :P
lol k will look into that and leave a comment :)

intlxpatr said...

Your Law and Order column is one of my favorite places for news, and that is why I was shocked when I thought it has disappeared. I am glad it hasn't, and glad to know who is writing it.

I thought you were another Enigma, a girl who used to blog as Enigma - sorry!

Enigma said...

heheh glad to know that...I try my best to make it readable...But sometimes its a task by itself coz the written material comes in arabic from the arab reporters and once the translation comes through in engklish, all i want to do is get done with it ...there has been time times wen i have spent more than 2 hours trying to just get it to be readable...glad to know that there r people following it and that its not a waste...Many times wen more important news have come in, i hav thought abt taking out that column for a day atleast...but till now we hav never done that, howmuch ever space restriction come, i try to put in atleast 3 or 4 news atleast :)