Birthdays!!!

Well what exactly is the relevance/meaning/speciality of birthdays???


A Birthday is always a special occassion for a person. Its not just kids who wait all year long for it, even the grown ups enjoy being pampered and loved.

When you are a kid - it’s a great time to enjoy, cut the specially made cartoonish figure cakes, open presents, be the special person of the day and run around with your friends and enjoy. As you grow older, it can be a special day to look forward to have a good time with friends, get special gifts from parents, and maybe get drunk too if you are at a proper age and if the situation is appropriate, wait to get something special from your crush/first love etc …



So what does it mean once you are over 28?

I don’t know…In some ways I guess it does feel special. From one angle it’s a day to feel some kind of joy, to have some special time with family and friends and all, to know and feel so good that most of them remember this special day and so on.


If you look at it from another angle, it is also a day to thank the God almighty for all the small and big blessings that we received till now, to thank him for keeping us safe all these years and for bringing us till here, for all our big and small achievements and so on.

It can also be a day to remember about the special people in your life, the loved ones who you miss, the little pain you feel due to not having your loved ones nearby to celebrate the occasion with you etc.

For me I guess I felt all of the above as like every human being I also have a childish side in me, a little grown up side and the mature side too… This birthday of mine on 12th Sept made me think a lot and also to not think about anything too… Hehe, pretty confusing na?


Well at a certain point I did miss my hubby who is in another country, the fun we used to have on birthdays when we were dating, the fun we used to have with friends during my life in Chennai (that’s mainly because those 2 and half years were the best years of my entire life), the fun with my best friends there and the little things I miss in life and so on…

At another point when my thinking went on to intense stuff like – why things happened so late in life; why get a great opportunity at this point of life and be thrown into a turmoil about whether to take it up or not, knowing that if I reject it I will always regret it; about why did I settle down so late; etc etc etc, I just stopped thinking at all and just went with the flow and let the day go by at its pace…


What actually made me say all this is a particular wording that was sent to me on my birthday and it said: “Why not seize the day to check out how your life is going? Rethink your errors and remember your successes, forgive yourself for your failures and take pride in your achievements. And remember that these errors, successes, failures and achievements are your story, the story of your life. And for this reason they should all be equally valued. Without them, you would not be who you are today.”

Isn’t it too meaningful? Isn’t this what we all should hear at some point in life? I feel that these words were written for each of us to understand and follow at some point in life. At a low point in life, it will make you feel positive and look at the bigger picture rather than just concentrating on the loses in our lives, about why that dint happen, why this didn’t work out that way blah blah blah…

These words somehow touched me so much in some way and it feels so right for the kind of attitude that most of us have towards life in this hi-tech busy era. We all do have to look back on life and thank God that we reached where we all are today without much scratches and problems, thank him that we overcame most of the problems and turmoil’s in life, that we became strong because of all this, that we are alive to see this day, that we are all safe and sound and that we have achieved so many things in life…

Ok I know I am getting a little too philosophical, so concluding this post for now coz otherwise it might turn into a huge novel. :P

BUT I CERTAINLY THANK GOD FOR GRANTING ME MANY OF MY WISHES … :)

P.S: I do have to say that on this birthday of mine it was thiruvonam (Onam festival of Kerala), hence i did get a proper traditional sadya with 2 payasams and all, got to cut the cake too and also got to have a non-veg dinner out with my parents (Well its a complete veg menu for onam)....Only thing was that I did miss my hubby a lot, but he did send me a gift and that was just a small relief....:)

Can't Say I'm Totally Ignorant!!!

What got me thinking about this particular topic is the fact that I’m not up to date with the recent trends in the music world, specially the world of English and international music. Hey you can’t call that a crime… I just don’t have the intense interest for it, that’s all.

There was a time when I used to listen to some of the English music and stuff, but as I progressed in my years, I just did not get the time for it and slowly lost interest. But I do have to say that I like most Malayalam melodies, especially some from the 80’s era. It stays on my mind a lot and mostly according to my mood I try and listen to it too as I love these. I guess I like these old melodious songs a lot as I used to sleep listening to these at a very young age.



Now a days when the older and younger generation speaks about certain English, international albums and songs, I just stare at them and try to openly tell that I do not have an idea or nod if do know something. People seeing this think that I must be crazy not to know such things…Hey these things depends and varies according to each individual’s mood and taste.

If you happen to have an interest and love for such things, you will take the effort to know about it. I don’t have that interest, so I do not take the extra effort. Another problem is that now days I just get time to go to work and then get back and relax, browse at home and stuff like that. Many have told me “how can you not know this, that etc”, well like I told earlier; it certainly is not such a great crime people. Do all of you know about everything in this world?



Well I know that we should all know certain basic things, but the rest is up to us and I hate people forcing things onto me. I guess because of this, the rebellious side of me acts up and I just end up being completely ignorant about certain facts. I know there is a bad side to this as I end up not knowing many things because of this.

For example some people create so much of hate in you that it affects your life so much. The best examples in my life are many of my teachers. Due to certain mathematics teachers of mine, I ended up hating math so much that I just couldn’t handle it at all. Due to this I had huge problems for my 10th and also for my pre-degree. For my first year of pre-degree I just totally left out almost 40 marks worth questions in my physics paper coz that whole section contained math problems. That’s the bad side to not knowing many things.

Well now that I am not in school or anything anymore, I guess I do have the liberty to know what I want to and not know about things which I do not have an interest in. After all it’s a free world right??? :)

Back from hybernation i guess!!!

Well I know that I did take a long time in coming back. It’s mainly because I just got too lazy. Ya the wedding went well and sadly I had to get back to work within 20 or 22 days and so was missing my hubby just too much to write anything.

The funny part is that I did get so many ideas to write in between, but was just too lazy to pen anything down and just kept telling myself - later, later...


I was just going through some blogs today and came across an article in PS's blog which I felt is so true... It’s about how most of us, just concentrate on the black dots in life and don’t look at the bigger picture etc. It’s so apt for the kind of life that we human beings have. People just concentrate on the tiny miseries in life that they forget the small blessings that they have.


I do have to say that marriage certainly has brought about a change in me. I seem to have calmed down a lot and seem to be least bothered about things that would have infuriated me earlier. For example – My florist ditched me on my wedding day. Well she did my engagement stage décor etc and left and told that she will come the day b4 the wedding with my bridal bouquet, the manthrakodi tray, the garlands and bouquet needed after the wedding, will do my car decorations etc etc etc…

Many days ahead of the wedding I kept calling her and either she wouldn’t pick up or would switch off both her mobile phones. And when I did get through to her, she would tell she is busy with some project and to call her in half an hour etc, after which the mobile would again be switched off. Finally once when I did get to talk she said “don’t worry, I will do everything etc”


But 2 days before the wedding, I did get too tensed and my parents were also worried, but still we thought she would do it and that nothing would go wrong. The night before the wedding, my nerves were certainly on raw ends coz I still was not able to get through to her as both her phones were switched off. The worst fact is that I dint even have an excitement about my wedding as I certainly had so many other things to worry about. To everyone who asked me about wedding excitement, I just stared at them like an idiot and then told, well someone in my house is getting married and I am just running around doing the errands….LOL (Coz that’s all I felt, can’t blame me na !)

During the pre-wedding night party, I did tell my friends who tried to contact other people and my aunt finally called some guy she knew (that also, the call was made in the middle of the night telling the guy that we needed flowers, car decor blah blah)


As usual like everyone should tell brides, people kept telling me to go sleep early etc, but how could I sleep even a wink… I was not able to take a nap even for 5 minutes. Finally I got out of bed by 4am and had to push off to the beauty parlor by 5, for which I was late by 15 minutes…I kept trying to call that lady and still her phones were switched off… Finally reached home and posed for my snaps without any bridal bouquets and my bridesmaids hadn’t got their bouquets too… Well that when I burst into tears and I had everyone come running telling not to cry as “the makeup would run” [heheh well now it certainly feels funny….]

My aunt did save things by making another florist guy open his shop early and they tried and made things as fast as they could, but still there was a delay as the flowers from Ooty etc came late. Due to all these factors, we started the two hour drive to the groom’s place really late. I DO HAVE TO SAY THAT I REACHED MY WEDDING ATLEAST AT THAT TIME COZ OF MY DRIVER WHO DROVE SO FAST AND WAS WIZZING IN BETWEEN CARS AND TRUCKER LORRIES. It certainly was a luck that we reached alive coz at many a point I did know that we were gonners when we got stuck in between huge buses and trucks and just somehow managed to escape due to GOD’S GRACE ALONE!!!


Ha yes I am certainly a bride who reached my wedding half an hour late..heheh….after all this, my relatives and parents were waiting to get that lady into their hands to give at least one slap each..LOL… But the fact is, even though I was so tensed throughout the wedding, it just disappeared after the wedding ceremony… I was finally able to smile and even after so many days went by I dint call that lady up even once to enquire why she did this to me on my wedding day and destroyed so many of my dreams about the wedding ceremony which did affect so many other things.
She made me feel so indifferent about the wedding, she destroyed so many of my dreams about how I wanted the wedding to be, she made me cry on my wedding day, she made me behave so badly with my would be on the wedding day and also the night before…phewww so many things ….but still I don’t feel anything now as I am looking at the bigger picture of “Thank God the wedding happened without any problems, that I was able to marry my beloved hubby who waited for me for 7 years, that God did bless me in many ways”

Even now when people ask me did I call that lady, did I ask her the reason, I am like why bother, anyway the wedding is over and done with, what’s the use of digging up old graves???


Well I do have to say that this change of attitude of mine is only after the wedding, before that I used to cry daily thinking about all my small worries and miseries and wonder why God is keeping me alive… Something seems to have caused a change in me, calmed me down etc…I am certainly learning to change my attitude towards life..

Well ya but I do miss my hubby and do get miserable on some days wondering why I am not able to do anything faster to get him to come to this country. Well for that the emigration officials have to work wonders, in fact God is the one who should work wonders here :)

Well that was a pretty long post right…. So now I do hope that I can actively get back to blogging...Wish me all the best :)




nb: these wedding pictures have been taken from the internet...

Not Back Yet!!!

Hi all u guys,

I know i havent been able to post anything for almost a month now... Well i am getting married soon and hence the tensions....I am down in India after two long years.... But no time to enjoy all that as i am running like mad to get things done and i dont even look like a bride or anything anymore...HUmmmmmm...well what does a bride exactly look like ??? well atleast i hope they are ones who gets lots of rest etc..But its my engagement day after and i still havent done half my things yet, dont even get time to sleep or anything....Well i hope to be back soon in blogosphere...
Kepp me in ur prayers... :)

How Disgusting!

Well disgusting is no word to describe this and I have wanted to write about this right from when I heard the news, but was loaded with so much work and then suddenly now I remembered about it. I know that the whole world has know about this by now and that it is old news, but still I had to mention it.

Children groomed for sex by polygamist sect:
More than 400 children were found in a Texas polygamist compound which was the site of pervasive sexual abuse. Here, girls were groomed to accept sex at puberty and boys were indoctrinated to perpetuate the cycle. Girls as young as 13 were “spiritually married” to men who claimed several wives, and were forced to have sex with their significantly older husbands “for purpose of having children”.

Children were deprived of food and locked in closets as punishment, and severe beatings were also reported on the sprawling YFZ (Yearn for Zion) Ranch outside of Eldorado, Texas owned by the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. A number of girls who were pregnant or had recently given birth were discovered on the ranch after a desperate call for help made by a 16-year-old girl.

In a series of whispered calls on a borrowed cell phone, the girl told a local family violence center that she was being held against her will on the compound and was told she would be "found and locked up" if she tried to leave. The girl said she began to be abused soon after she was left at the ranch by her parents about three years ago and at age 15 became the seventh wife of a 49-year-old man. She said she is pregnant again just eight months after giving birth to her first child by a man who would force himself on her sexually and beat her "whenever he got angry," the affidavit said.

Other women in the home would hold her baby while the man identified as Dale Barlow beat her. Barlow would choke her and hit her in the chest and she was once beaten so badly that she was taken to the hospital with several broken ribs. The girl said she had no contact with her parents but knew they were preparing to send her 15-year-old sister to the ranch. While she was anxious to escape, she was worried about what would happen to her if she left the confines of the ranch. The girl has yet to be identified among the 416 children and 139 adult women removed from the ranch in a raid which began Thursday.A number of the children interviewed in the course of the investigation were "unable or unwilling to provide the names of their biological parents or identified multiple mothers". A judge has temporarily placed all the children into state custody as a result of what investigators found when they entered the ranch in an attempt to find the girl.

The 1,700-acre (688-hectare) ranch was purchased in 2003 and built by Warren Jeffs, who considers himself the sect's prophet and was jailed for life for being an accomplice to rape. The mainstream Mormon Church - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints - renounced polygamy more than a century ago as a price of Utah's admission to the United States. It now excommunicates members who engage in the practice and disavows any connection with the FLDS church.

Can we call this disgusting? This is worse than that. How can people stoop to such levels? Isn’t there a limit? Don’t their consciences bother them at all??Well they don’t have one right!!! One thing I really hate is draging God's name into such disgusting things and they have done all this using God's name and the use of a church etc. Worst part is that the parents gave their children to all this. How can they be so irresponsible that they did not even bother to ask about the whereabouts of their kids even once.

I have added some photos that were available on the net of some of the members of the church, a view of the church etc...

Bizarre Facts

I have heard so many bizarre things in my life and looks like I have to read in the news too daily now...

Here is one strange one I saw:

Cereal, bananas make baby boys?
That’s the exact way the title of the news article was and as I read on it was funny indeed. If moms eat cereal and bananas raises the odds of having a baby boy. Well if women eat like it’s mentioned in the article; let me tell you they would be damn over obese moms. Well it might be true too but the amount of calorie level that increases the chances for a baby boy are not good. Ya I know that most parents in this modern age too want a baby boy and that the female gender is not the first preferred choice. I don’t think anyone can disagree on that fact because, studies have shown that India has high rates of female infanticide and that too it’s growing at an alarming rate. Sad state of events na? And god knows where all this is going!

Phewwww what all do we have to know daily....

Ok here another one:

Severed head to be put in museum
Police in eastern India want to display in a museum the head of a woman decapitated after she was accused of practicing witchcraft. (Well at least they say that seeing this will be a lesson for those who persecute innocent women). Is that so??Will it be a lesson?

A villager in Jharkhand state attacked the woman and chopped off her head at the weekend. The police think that displaying the head in a museum will create a sensation in society and could be helpful in preventing people taking to such heinous crimes.

In rural India, villagers often accuse women of being witches and blame them for natural disasters or for an illness, death or theft. Hundreds of them are killed every year and most incidents take a long time to come to light.
:(

Looks like animals are better than humans, want to know why?

Hundreds of villagers flocked to a remote village to see a baby girl who was saved by stray dogs after she was abandoned in a mound of mud by her mother. The child was saved after they saw three dogs barking near a baby covered with mud. The dogs removed the soil around and began to bark and the baby started crying which drew the attention of the local villagers.

Luckily the girl is now safe in the lap of a childless couple who adopted her. Female feticide, though illegal in India, is widespread as boys are traditionally preferred to girls as breadwinners, and families have to pay huge dowries to marry off their daughters. The United Nations says an estimated 2000 unborn girls are illegally asborted everyday in India.

well such crimes are increasing at an alarming rate too and India is on its way to be super power...

Where ever we look now, strange things are happening and the crime rates are also sky high. The world, as it jumps to being ultra modern seems to be the most unsafe place to live, even for an infant or an unborn baby.

I have been tagged !!!

10 reasons to why I blog!

Yoo-hoo, I have been tagged by Jaggu and am sorry that I couldn’t post this earlier.

Humm well what exactly are the ten reasons that I blog? I really don’t know, but let me see…

1. It opened up a whole new world for me.
2. It feels so good to have people reading your written work and it certainly feels great to get the feedbacks and comments.
3. It feels good to have somewhere to write your heart out or somewhere to vent out the frustration and all.
4. I get to read so many different blogs and get to know so many new things.
5. It gives me a chance to meet so many different people from different backgrounds and cultures which is so good since you do it just by blogging.
6. Blogging gives me a soothing feeling and gives me so much comfort, especially after I have written out my pent up feelings and such.
7. Reading other blogs relaxes me.
8. There so many blogs which make me smile and laugh a lot (specially blogs like - Just a mother of two, Shades of gray, BeTwEeN tHe LiNeS, Psychobabble! And so many more).
9. It is helping me polish up my writing skills which I had abandoned long ago.
10. It helps me stay in touch and keeps me connected to what’s happening in this world…

Phewww there I have written it after breaking my head over it…I guess now that I think about it, these are just some of the reasons that I blog. Blogs do open up a whole new world for you and since I had written an article about how blogging helps the PR field, I guess I know or rather understand that blogging is also opening up a whole new world of communication even in the corporate world.

Well… welcome to the new age :)

Superstitious beliefs

India is a country with lots of cultures and beliefs. I respect that fact and just love my country for the variety and beauty it offers. But even in this flourishing and upcoming age, especially when India is rising to be a super power, superstitions also seem to be flourishing like crazy. The last well known incident was about the little girl who has many hands and legs and was operated upon.

The latest incident that has made news is about a little girl named ‘Lali’ from a village in northern India. She is a baby with two faces and is being worshipped as the reincarnation of the Hindu goddess - Durga. Lali apparently has an extremely rare condition known as craniofacial duplication, where a single head has two faces. All of the little girl’s features are duplicated except for her ears (two only), otherwise she has two noses, two pairs of eyes and two pairs of lips.

Lali has caused a sensation in the village of Saini Sunpura which is 40 kms east of New Delhi. Upto 100 people have been visiting the little child daily at her home everyday to touch her feet, offer money and receive blessings. The parents (father- Vinod Singh, 23yrs old, a poor farm worker) insist that their daughter is fine. Luckily the villagers who live near her, the young parents and the overprotective local doctor are not ashamed of the extraordinary looking little girl. That's because while she may only be 2½ weeks old, she is far more famous than any resident of this part of the country has ever been.

The village council is very happy that the little girl brought fame to their village and is planning to write to the state government to provide money to build a temple and help the parents look after their daughter.

What more should I comment on this???? Well atleast the good part is that this has made world news and many people/docytors who see this will atleast offer treatment and others might offer the cash needed for the necessary treatment.